Wounded Women-the fine line between pity & respect.


I finally read “Grace’s” story.

This is the woman who several months ago had one date with Aziz Ansari, the popular comedian/actor, and subsequently went public with her experience which she described as a sexual assault.

The response to this revelation has been interesting.

Some hard core feminists firmly believe that any sloppy sexual encounter, this one included, is an assault. Others point out that “Grace” had multiple opportunities to tell Mr. Ansari she wasn’t into his version of “fifty shades” and to desist.

She chastised him in the article for not picking up on her “non-verbal cues”.. the most effective non-verbal cue of course simply being this: put on your clothes and arrange for an Über – which he ultimately did upon her request.

So yeah, the jury is out on this one.

Here’s my concern: The #metoo movement can be a tremendous tool for women, but there’s a critical distinction and balance that must be struck between promoting empowerment and trying to leverage such a wide (and subjective) spectrum of victimization.

The Wounded Warrior Project is a great example of how challenging it is to navigate the space between pity and respect; weakness and strength.  The #metoo movement now finds itself in this same, difficult terrain.




Grace’s Article




photocredit:The Christian Chronicle

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