Ever open your jewelry box and find your most precious possessions in a thousand tangles? Most of us have probably spent at least one afternoon sitting at a table with tweezers trying to undo tightly wound knots in delicate chains wondering how on earth things got so hopelessly messed up.
This is exactly how I felt yesterday talking to a dear friend of mine who is struggling mightily with her weight. As I patiently listened to her discuss and defend her lifestyle, I thought about how twisted and knotted her thinking had become. Her diet had over time morphed into a confusing bundle of restrictions, each originally added in response to some perceived problem, but in the end creating nothing more than a nightmare of nonsensical, counterproductive and ultimately non-effective habits and constraints that were literally driving her to fits of binge eating relief.
Unbelievably, the more we talked the more she seemed convinced that the answer was to introduce yet one more small change..you know, one more lifestyle adjustment to try and live by.
I thought about my two fragile, golden chains that I worked so hard to separate a few years back. Try as I might, I could not pull them apart. When I finally gave up, I sold them to my jeweler and happily walked away from the futile effort.
Sometimes, when our tangles are too tight to undo, the only answer is to melt them down and create something completely brand new.